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6 Tips to Improve Your Self Esteem
Are you not having a good day? Not feeling so good about yourself? We all falter sometimes. All it takes is a little unasked-for criticism or someone just treating us harshly to trigger us into a spiral of negative self-talk and anxiety about not being liked or good enough.
This article covers the meaning of self-worth and answers if it differs from self-esteem? Furthermore, it will cover how self-esteem develops and the difference between having high and low self-esteem.
Then we will cover 6 tips to improve your self-esteem that you can use when you need to remind yourself of your self-worth fast. These quick tips are useful for getting yourself back on track even when life seems out of control.
What is Self-Worth?
Having Self-worth means that you value yourself as a unique individual, feel loveable, and know you are necessary to life.
Definition of Self-Worth
Self-Worth according to the American Psychological Association Dictionary is:
n. an individual’s evaluation of himself or herself as a valuable, capable human being deserving of respect and consideration. Positive feelings of self–worth tend to be associated with a high degree of self-acceptance and self–esteem.
Definition of Self-Esteem
n. the degree to which the qualities and characteristics contained in one’s self-concept are perceived to be positive. It reflects a person’s physical self-image, view of his or her accomplishments and capabilities, and values and perceived success in living up to them, as well as the ways in which others view and respond to that person. The more positive the cumulative perception of these qualities and characteristics, the higher one’s self-esteem. A reasonably high degree of self-esteem is considered an important ingredient of mental health, whereas low self-esteem and feelings of worthlessness are common depressive symptoms.
Difference between Self-worth and Self- Esteem
Our self-esteem refers to what we think, feel, and believe about ourselves. So ultimately it encompasses our feelings of Self-worth and the terms are often used interchangeably. Along with self-esteem, other synonyms for self-worth would be self-confidence or a positive self-image.
How do you Develop your Self-Esteem?
Your feelings of self-esteem have been developing since childhood through the many different experiences and interactions you had with your primary caregivers. Self-esteem then continues to be influenced by subsequent experiences and relationships throughout your life.
Your self-worth will fluctuate at different times and in different situations.
High versus Low Self-Esteem
People with high self-esteem are more unlikely to allow negative experiences to change their feelings of self-worth. They also tend not to take criticism as personally as others do.
However, if a person already suffers from low self-esteem a negative experience could be more damaging to an already fragile sense of self-worth.
Remember, it doesn’t mean people with high self-worth are always bulletproof. Sometimes negative events or experiences can shake even the most self-confident person’s self-worth. It is a part of being a human being and especially if the person is highly sensitive.
The difference is a person with high self-worth will bounce back to a healthy self-opinion much faster than someone who has self-worth issues.
The good news is it is never too late to work on your feelings of worth if they are not as positive as you would like.
So, it’s best to use these practices daily to boost your self-worth.
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6 Tips to Improve Your Self Esteem
#1)Go into a Judgement-Free Zone
OK, so your thoughts aren’t what you wish they would be. You know you’re in a depressing cycle. Your emotions are all over the place, and you’re starting to hit critical mass when it comes to criticism.
You already know you’re not supposed to be reacting this way. So to make your awful day a little bit worse, you start beating yourself up for how you’re treating yourself. This is entirely the wrong approach.
Your first step must be to stop the negative spiral. Drop the judgment. Accept you’re having a bad day. Learn to distinguish between a mistake or a bad event and self-criticism. This moment doesn’t have to define you.
This is the perfect time to be reminding yourself of your inherent self-worth irrespective of circumstances.
With these thoughts firmly in mind, it’s time to let any negativity go.
#2)Drop the ‘Should’
Why are you caught up thinking about ‘should’ anyway?
The moment you start using this particularly devilish little word, you’re telling yourself what a failure you are. You have become caught up in a vortex of perfectionism; you can’t possibly escape.
‘Should’ never helps anybody. Erase it from your vocabulary.
#3)Stop Looking for External Validation to Improve your Self Esteem
Anytime you think someone else can give you what you need to feel good about yourself, you’re going to be disappointed. People will let you down.
Even in the best relationship, it’s not healthy to use someone else to define who you are.
This kind of thinking can be dangerous and can lead to feelings of low self-worth if the other does not have your best interests at heart.
Or what if the person you relied upon to make you feel worthwhile was no longer in your life? How would this then impact your self-worth?
#4)Come to Terms with the Past
It’s time to separate your actions from yourself. When you make a mistake, acknowledge the error and move on.
To stay stuck in shame or guilt over past events serves no purpose and only hurts you in the long run. There is nothing to be gained by victimizing yourself.
Forgive yourself and move on.
#5)Know Where You Excel
For a super-quick fix to raise your self-worth, take a moment to list off the things in which you excel. Acknowledge your accomplishments.
A close examination of all the things which make you proud should give you a solid reminder you are indeed worthy.
Don’t forget to include both your intrinsic values and your worldly accomplishments.
#6)Use Self-Worth Affirmations to Build Your Self-Esteem
It’s a good idea to have a list of ready-to-go affirmations at your disposal should you encounter those moments of self-doubt. The moment you notice a negative self-thought replace it with a corresponding positive affirmation.
In fact, you don’t have to wait for a bad moment to use these. They should be used as daily reminders for yourself to love yourself.
A few examples are:
- I am infinitely valuable
- I am exquisitely unique
- I am perfect in my personhood
- I am worthy of love, respect, happiness, and success
- I forgive myself
- I am enough
“Our journey is about being more deeply involved in Life and yet less attached to it.”— Ram Dass
Our self-esteem is an integral part of who we are. It is the reason we strive for goals, or develop relationships, or stand up for ourselves when needed. Loving yourself and holding yourself in high regard is not boastful or arrogant. Rather it is the opposite. It is deeply respectful of the value of life – yours and others.
By using any or all of these above self-worth tips and reminders you can quickly restore your self-worth. The key is to be alert and move quickly to head off negative thoughts before they undo all the hard work you’ve already put into yourself.
And as the last word try to remember to Stop Taking Yourself So Seriously.
As the saying goes – “no one is getting out alive”.
So learn to laugh more, make more mistakes, take risks, and love more. Learn to roll with the inevitable punches and curveballs that will cross your path without getting bitter, hurt, or feeling victimized.
To truly value and honor your life and self-worth is to understand the temporary nature of everything, including your earthly self.
I hope you found these 6 tips to improve your self-esteem of use. Do you have others? Leave a comment
6 Tips to Improve Your Self Esteem